If you are looking for online sex dates, cross Facebook off your list. Seriously. Really. I know it is very tempting because, if you just have 20 friends and one of your friends is really really popular, your reach of potential friends of friends or friends of friends of friends of friends is exponential.

It is not unusual for Facebook members who have only 20 Facebook friends to be able to reach hundreds of thousands of people. That is how Facebook works. It is all about viral connections. You may not have that many friends. But if you are friends with certain people who have a lot of friends and their friends are very popular people, it is very easy to see how messages that you send can end up reaching thousands, if not hundreds of thousands, or even millions of people. It is no surprise then why spammers love to use Facebook. It is very easy to reach a broad audience with very minimal effort.

With that said, using Facebook to get free sex is just a completely bad idea. You might think that you are only trying to hook up with single women or even married women on the periphery or outer reaches of your influence on Facebook. The problem is that if any of those online hookups end badly, all your Facebook friends will hear about it. Just as it was easy for you to send a hookup message to the outer circles of your sphere of influence on Facebook, it will also be as easy for bad news regarding your sexual abilities, your appearance, or your personality to reach everybody else.

If you don’t want to look like a clown in front of people you respect, it is probably a good idea to keep sex out of Facebook. I know it is very tempting because a lot of those profiles of friends of friends look very hot. There are a lot of good-looking women on Facebook. However, your reputation and self-respect are not worth it. Believe me. If things end badly, your friends and family members are the first to know on Facebook.